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Abdul Aziz, via email

I am a resident of Hyderabad and a regular reader of Young Muslim Digest. I pray to Allah to guide more and more people to strive for the cause of Islam and propagate its true message to mankind. I have certain queries related to my private life:

I am going to get married shortly and my bride-to-be is still pursuing studies in her final year. Post marriage can I use contraceptives to delay pregnancy till she finishes her studies as ill-health caused due to initial stages of pregnancy may disrupt her studies. Also she lacks in terms of good health as she does not focus on good diet?

YMD

It is commonly known that pregnancy could be delayed for the kind of reasons you have stated. It is the permanent nature of the delay that is objectionable, as also, if adopted as a policy to limit the number to a few. Therefore, if poor health is the reason then it may be improved rather than permanently stay unhealthy and so permanently remain on pills.

Is valima to be arranged only after consummation of the marriage? This question I may not be asking out of ignorance but I usually overhear people saying that valima is haraam before consummation.

YMD

Since the reasons for the Valimah are known, it will not be haram, but jolly well funny for it to be held without the raison d’être of the affair. It is like taking a bath in anticipation of annulment of the state of purity, or a cup of tea at night, in anticipation of next morning’s breakfast, or hoisting a flag in anticipation of next year’s nationalistic celebrations.

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